There is much debate over this. Some people may believe in fate. Que Sera Sera.

Whilst some take it to the other extreme and believe that the Universe will provide -you just need to ask. You may hear this referred to as the Law of Attraction or ‘The Secret’ – it makes interesting reading, and whether you buy into being able to manifest anything you want if you believe hard enough or not, the law of attraction has some interesting possibilities.

Just imagine for a moment that you’re going out to buy a new car. You’ve set your heart on a red one, you may even have decided on a model. The more you think about it the more you want it and they start popping up for sale everywhere. This could be described as the law of attraction. You’ve imagined yourself driving it and boom that one on the garage fore-court is perfect for you and in budget.

The alternative scenario is that in psychology terms, your Reticular Activating System (RAS) has kicked in. It’s a diffuse network of nerve pathways in the brainstem connecting the spinal cord, cerebrum, and cerebellum, and mediating the overall level of consciousness. It’s the thing that makes you notice things.

If you close your eyes just for a moment, and I ask you what green items are in the room with you, open your eyes and you’ll suddenly see several. I’ve just counted 14; I’d not noticed them before had you?

And whether you fall into the more spiritual law of attraction camp or are a more confirmed scientifically led person the result seems to be the same.

So when you’re considering not bothering setting goals or resolutions on the 1st January, consider this:

How likely is it that you will achieve your goal is you don’t set one?

How much does that statistic increase if you have a goal?

So here are 3 tips to achieving your goal:

  • Set a meaningful goal, something that’s important to you.
  • Put it somewhere you will see it and be reminded of what you’re trying to achieve (give your RAS a chance to kick in)
  • Make sure there’s a nice reward for you when you achieve it.

And if you’re still thinking green then I have a great workbook to help you set and achieve your goals. It’s available from my website / or is free when you book a January Kick Starter Session or Vision Board workshop directly with me.

How often do you focus on the negative?

Carolyn Trafford is a Creative Freedom Coach supporting others in achieving the life they want. If there’s something you want to achieve get in touch today on 07714 216388

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